I’m always trying to better myself, if there’s a book I’ll read it, a video I’ll watch it, a quote I’ll pin it! This year, I learned two tips that are, no lie (!) – life changing. These two techniques will help you feel more productive (because you will be!), they’ll make you actually WANT to do the shit you just *need* to do, and you won’t feel guilty about it either!
TIP 1: an agenda
The first tip came to me from YouTuber Samantha Ravndahl via YouTuber Raw Beauty Kristi. Kristi talked about Samanthas tip for making an agenda for your day – sounds pretty grown up right? I’ll link Kristis video at the end but I can’t find the video in which Samantha gives her tips – sorry! An agenda also sounds pretty aggressive, like you’d be about to cause some serious chaos, or really f*ck someone up!
An agenda is basically a really detailed scheduled plan of the day. I mean, minute by minute organise your tasks for the day. Depending on your life (working from home, busy mum, full time 9-5), your day is going to vary massively from someone elses, and tomorrow may look completely different than yesterday. You’ll want to schedule in breaks, for rest or lunch, be sure to add in time to get ready, time to prepare food etc. EVERYTHING YOU WANT TO DO THAT DAY. Here’s an example:
Seems straightforward and pretty basic right? It’s a two step job – implementing this strategy means unless your phone starts ringing and it’s your kids school, your little nan or someone that can’t wait – ignore it. Don’t scroll your emails as you make lunch or type up that brief, don’t have Friends on in the background as you photograph that perfect flat lay. If you just exclusively stick to the task at hand, I swear you’ll complete it a hell of a lot faster, to a higher quality (providing you don’t get disrupted). At the end of the day you’ll probably be surprised that actually, settling down with a gin and some crap Netflix show, or a glass of wine in a bath, happens earlier than scheduled. This kind of focus and completely forgoing as much *bs* as possible will have your day flowing much better. Scroll to the end for a downloadable agenda template, you can save this and type over using apps like Canva, print it and write on it, or however you can or want to.
Tip 2: musterbating (teeheehee).
I learned this great tip from Roxy Rhodes at the Womanifest event that I attended in March (I blogged about that, I’ll link it below). Womanifest was a great event hosted by Ladies Life Lounge “Ladies Life Lounge is designed to bring like-minded women together to make changes to the way they live and the things they do in order to make for a more happy and fulfilling life that actually gets lived to the full. We don’t want to see you just surviving or existing!”. LLL is ran by friends Roxy and Jodes, you can join their FREE Facebook group to meet like minded women, there’s always great talks, helpful info and just a great support network we all need! I’ll include links below.
Roxys background is in mental health, and this tip she shared will completely flip a switch in your head, and hopefully as it did for me, it will help you get the f*ck out of your own way, and you’ll start do the things you want to do. Though this tip is straightforward, it is not necessarily easy to do. It is all about changing a life long ingrained habit of telling ourselves what we NEED to do, or what we HAVE to do, what we SHOULD be doing.
By changing the language we use, to words that are more positive, flexible, assertive and “I’m in control here”, we are essentially taking our power back. Try it in a sentence now, give yourself one example of something to be done today, “I’m going to go to the gym” sounds much more *Rosy Riveter strong arm* than “I should go to the gym”, “I need to do the dishes” can be replaced with “I will do the dishes”. As Roxy said in her talk, the only real thing you NEED to do today, or most other days is keep yourself alive. Of course, if you have babies (human, furry, feathered, scaly or otherwise), you need to keep them alive too. You’ll notice words like need, should, have to, must etc. kind of feel like somebody else is pulling the strings, like there is someone else in charge of your actions. Actually, it’s you – you have the power and by changing your vocabulary to words where you’re the boss, you’ll begin to feel less resistant to the tasks at hand, because they feel much more like a choice than a forced act.